There’s one thing that’s absolutely free in this world. Advice. Every Tom, Dick, and Harry you come across, seems to have an interesting insight into your life. Some people actually take it as their fundamental right to give advice to others. But this is a fallacy. The person you are giving your valuable (invaluable) relationship advice to, doesn’t have anything in common with you. They are having a crisis that you don’t have any practical knowledge of. So, it’s better to shut your trap. When it comes to your relationship, you will find that every other person has a Ph.D. in that subject. Though some relationship advice does come as a blessing in disguise, most of them are misleading. Nobody can understand your situation as they are not in your shoes. So, some relationship advice that you shouldn’t pay heed to is…
1. The Right One Will Need No Effort
Am I sorry? This is like the king of bad relationship advice. Who gives this nonsense? A relationship is not a joke. Even a normal joke needs effort. First, you need to have some close friends, find the right occasion, think of a good punchline, speak it. See. Everything needs effort. Think of the smallest action that you make and think of the stuff leading to it. A perfect relationship advice works on the simultaneous effort from both sides.
2. Fun Part Is Temporary
It’s true when you come in a relationship everything is filled with enthusiasm and energy. Everything is fun. Emotion and passion are brimming in it. But after some time you guys grow more comfortable with each other. You don’t need the constant reminder of being in love. Doing laundry together becomes a fun activity. This is the beauty of love. This beautiful journey shows how your love has grown since day 1. So, fun is where love is.
3. Settle With What You Have
This is wrong. If you are not happy with someone why settle with them? This doesn’t make any sense. Love is a beautiful journey and not a job that you will have to settle for. Nobody finds love at the first go. Everyone comes across some wrong people. So, just because you have faced disappointment doesn’t mean you need to “settle”.
What? Why should I keep quiet? Exactly. There will be some people giving out the advice of repressing your feelings and stuff but do not listen to them. If anything upsets you, talk about it. Have a hearty discussion with your partner about it. Repressed emotions lead to hidden anguish. So not good for a relationship.
5. Love Is All You Need
Ok so you have a high fever and in place of medicine, you are reading his/her love letter. Do you feel the temperature going down? Obviously not. So, love doesn’t conquer it all. Love needs an equal amount of brains, understanding, and devotion.
6. Distance Is Always Good
Some might say that distance is helpful when it comes to clearing out your brain. But in reality, if you run from a problem, it will never go away. That problem will always be there. And the bliss of this momentary escape will grow inside you and will replace love.
So, now that you know, if you ever come across anyone giving this relationship advice, keep them at bay.